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My name is Terje Nordkvelle and I have for the last 13 years woried as a coach for teenagers. In that periode, I have seen what is common mistakes when it comes to talk to teenagers. And bad relationships can be the result.
Here they are:
Parents giving advice too often.
Ask your child for answers instead. We all like to make our own decisions, and with ownership of a change, it increases the chance of the teen going through with it.
Many parents are addressing mostly the negative.
Try to give 80 percent of your attention to the behavior you are satisfied with. Then some of the problems tend to fade away;-)
Parents talking when they shouldlisten.
Be present as a good listner. Kids do not our presents. They need our presnce.
I hope this helps you.
I often get questions from parents about one of two things:
1: How to make the youth listen to them.
2: How to help teenagers gain more confidence.
There are many tips in my videos, but they are long and scattered all over.
So I thought: How can I make it easier?
Then I got this idea: What if I write an ebook?
1: Keep calm and control in communication with youth. Stop arguing, make the youth listen.
2: Get new ideas and techniques that contribute to better communication, which in turn leads to good relationships.
3: Increase youth self-esteem, help them open up, gain faith in themselves and a better self-image.
My idea is to broadcast live in a Facebook group every Thursday ahead, at 8pm. I consider calling the broadcast "SmartPrat"
If this sounds ok, I would like to invite you as one of the first eaders. To get you started this will cost you NOK 47 per month. This price should be increased, but you will always pay 7. The SmartPrat broadcast is currently only at the idea stage, and I would like to create this with the first members. If this is of interest to you and you want to get better at motivational communication, send a reply back saying you want to join for 47 kroner. Then I'll send you all the info you need. NOTE: IF YOU ARE ON MY LIST, A MESSAGE WILL BE MONDAY ON THE PRICE IS 147. This does not apply to you who I made video for, but everyone else on the list. The offer of NOK 47 is valid until Monday 11 May at 18:00. Please reply by then. I need at least 15 participants to start. The first live broadcast will be on Thursday, May 14 at 8 p.m. Hope to hear from you by Monday at 18, and you can of course cancel your membership at any time ;-) Terje ;-)May I ask for your help?
The reason I feel so strongly about this is probably my failures with girls, school, and sports at a young age.
Now you know a little about what not to do. So, what's the smartest thing you can do to change bad behavior and create a great relationship with your teenager?
Here is a very good answer to that question!
I was wrong
Oslo, 2007: I humbly realized that my focus as a coach for teenagers had been wrong... Not until I asked myself: What did I need as a kid, I finally understood the real reason behind conflicts and bad behavior. I had figured out how to get through to and talk to the teenagers!
Suddenly it was easy to get them to listen to me. And they shared feelings and thoughts from their lives!
Here's the secret I discovered 13 years ago:
Many mothers and fathers I talk to believe the most important thing behind a good relationship is that the children like the parents. I thought so too.
It's not. It turns out that the key lies in how well teenagers like themselves - in conversation with you. That's the secret!
If you can help them to like themselves - they will like you, bad behavior is turned around, and you will have the relationship you dream about.
Many parents react with that this must be wrong, and that the problem is that the teenager has too much confidence.
Well, it turns out that people that behave "cocky" often dislike themselves. They act overconfident to compensate for their internal insecurity.
Teenagers with genuinely good self-esteem tend to be respectful, empathetic, and caring.
So, back to my story: I kept getting questions from parents about how I made such a good connection with their kids.
My methods are pretty simple, so the parents could easily use my communication-tools. But after giving the same advice for years, I thought to myself:
Maybe I can help more families if I write an ebook about my discovery?
I contacted a British editor, Diane Weller, and we created my seven-steps roadmap to positive changes in teenagers.
This guide works well if your child:
* does not want to listen to you. (Attitude, arguing, yelling)
* does not want to talk to you and open up. (Low self-esteem, quiet, isolating.)
The first part of the book is about what you transfer to your child, often without knowing it. The seven steps start on page 30. especill step 1 and 2
Will you take a look?
How this works:
Write your email in the form below. Then you will be sent to a page with the link and password to the book and bonus article. (An email is also sent to you, please check the spam filter.)
After a few days you get a message from me
ith the payment details of 27 US Dollars.price increase, carwash 27 dollars
GUARANTEE: You pay this ONLY if you are satisfied with the book and the positive change in your teenager.
If you have any questions, please contact me at this email:
Check out the video below for a smart trick to get kids to do tasks